YOU ARE THE PROBLEM
A mentor once told me the moment you take responsibility for everything that’s happening in your life; you become powerful beyond measure. Is it possible that every complaint you have about your life does nothing more than expose your lack of skill or focus on that particular area? Perhaps, there is no one to blame other than yourself? Perhaps, you are the problem.
Marriage not what you want it to be?
Business falling short?
Finances in disarray?
Kids misbehaving?
Many of us spend far too much energy trying to change others to avoid taking responsibility for the changes we need to make ourselves.
To prove this point, imagine tomorrow morning you wake up with pain in your abdomen. It’s so severe you’re unable to go to work or focus on any day-to-day activities. You decide it’s time to stop the pain and schedule an appointment with your doctor. After a brief examination, your doctor diagnoses you with appendicitis and says your spouse must be rushed into surgery immediately to solve the problem and remove the pain. This sounds insane. There is absolutely no reason anyone would believe your spouse having their appendix removed would solve the pain you have in your abdomen, yet when we’re angry, frustrated, or _ (insert emotion), we expect others to change. Not only do we expect them to change so we may feel better, we’re happy to point out what needs to be changed for us to feel better.
If we operate under the fundamental truth that everything happening in our lives at this very moment is a result of decisions we made in the past we can begin to see the path to better business, relationships, finances, or health.
Want to put this to the test? Pick an area of your life where you would like to see improvement. Common areas are business, finances, relationships, health, spiritual, personal, and your job. Once you’ve selected an area, ask yourself what you would like this to look like? Be careful here. I’ve noticed many people default to what I would like to improve about this area. When you do this, you’re focused on what you don’t want rather than what you do want. You must be focused on what you do want. For example; if my health was exactly where I wanted it to be I would______________________. In the ideal world my relationships would be _____. Once that is done, ask yourself what habits I would need to form to have this? What decisions would I need to make to create those habits? Who can I talk to for accountability, support, and validation that these habits will get the results I want? As soon as you take responsibility, you’ll almost immediately notice a difference in any area of your life…